30 behaviors that will make you unstoppable in 2019

30 behaviors that will make you unstoppable in 201930 behaviors that will make you unstoppable in 2019According to the British philosopher, Alain de Botton, Anyone who isnt embarrassed of who they were brde year probably isnt learning enough.How different is your life, right now, from where you were 12 months ago?If its quite similar, then you havent been learning very much. To learn, by nature, is to change and evolve.In reservierung to change and evolve, you need to regularly create peak experiences - those moments which create deep awe, gratitude, and a shift in how you binnenbinnensee yourself and the world.When welches your last peak experience?What welches the last time you flexed your courage muscles?When welches the last time you tried something that might leid work?- - - If youre ready to make wild progredienz during 2019, you need to make some tweaks.This isnt anything to be upset, distraught, or frustrated about. Life is, inherently, a learning experience.Life is beauti ful.You get to have fun with it.One thing that is really beautiful about moving forward intensely in your future is that, simultaneously, you change your memory about the past.The past, regardless of what it has been - great or disappointing - will change in meaning as you make new decisions in your future.Your future is flexible. Your past is also flexible. What you have is now.You get to decide what youre going to do. You get to decide how youre going to live.Look around No one is stopping you. Want to make a shift?Here are 30 behaviors to get you abfluged1. Wake up earlierYoure mora likely to act yourself into feeling, than feeling yourself into action. - Dr. Jerome BrunerDr. Stephen Covey once presided over hundreds of service missionaries as their leader. One of them was struggling intensely in his relationship with others. Rather than having the missionary focus on his relationships, Covey told the missionary to start waking up earlier, consistently.Private victory always precedes public victory, Covey told the missionary.If he could just start waking up a little earlier, and put first things first, then his interactions with others would change.But the missionary lacked the confidence that he could wake up early, consistently, for 30 days. Like fruchtwein people, this young man was really good at lying to himself and hadnt witnessed himself living in alignment with his own goals and words.Start with seven days, Covey told him. Can you do that?Yes, I can do seven days.Seven days later, the missionary looked like a different rolle.Confidence is the byproduct of prior performance. It doesnt take much to reset how you feel about yourself.Start waking up a little earlier.Then do this2. Drink mora waterAs soon as you wake up in the morning, drink a HUGE glass of water. Drinking water first thing in the morning actually makes you mora alert and wakes you up. So, if you wake up and immediately drink like 20+ ounces of water, your morning sleepiness wont las t long.Having water on an empty stomach helps to cleanse the colon, which in turn increases the efficiency of the intestine to absorb nutrients. It also helps in flushing out toxins from your body.As we drink healthy amounts of water, we have smaller waistlines, healthier skin, and better functioning brains.3. Write your goals down, every single morningAssume the feeling of your wish fulfilled and observe the route that your attention follows. - Neville GoddardAfter you pull yourself out of bed and drink a huge glass of water, find a spot to pull open your journal.Write your goals down.Do this every day.Do this first thing in the morning, every single day, and your life will change.How so?Your orientation toward your day reflects how you approach your day.fruchtwein people allow their environment and bodily addictions to trigger themselves into unhealthy subconscious patterns, which are then played-out every single day.First thing in the morning, they are sucked back into their sma rtphone.Then they go through their day, and bedrngnis much different happens from the day before.This isnt very creative, nor is it imaginative.But what happens when you start your day by writing down your goals and dreams for the future?How do you think this behavior would influence your imagination and creativity?Former United States President, Abraham Lincoln, once said, The best way to predict the future is to create it.The best way to CREATE your day is to start in a creative mode. In order to wake up in a creative mode, you must give yourself space for reflection.Writing your goals down on paper doesnt need to take mora than 2 minutes. If youre serious about your future, it could and should take longer (like 10+).As you write your goals down, you shift your subconscious patterns. You train your brain to begin LOOKING for what you want. As Dan Sullivan has said, Your eyes can only see what your brain is looking for.Most peoples brains have been trained to be lazy. They havent p roactively set their brain on a search for what they want. As a result, incredible opportunities pass them by every day unawares.But theres more.When you visualize your future in the form of writing goals, you literally re-wire your brain and memory. While writing your goals, get yourself into an aroused emotional state. Imagine and feel what it would be like to have those goals.The more emotional the writing, the more subconsciously shifting the experience.The more emotionally arousing, the more your brain will create new neural connections.As your brain makes new neural connections, your memories, and perspective of the world changes.This is how you create a peak-state every morning. A peak-state is simply feeling incredibly good about where you currently are, and having complete confidence and clarity in where youre going.A peak-state is similar to a peak experience, wherein you feel immense awe and gratitude for life. Your mind and brain are expanded and changed, daily.What woul d happen if your mind and brain changed, daily, to reflect the person you intend to become and the future you intend to inhabit?Itd be pretty amazing, right?Well, then get yourself some peak-states and experiences every morning.Within a short period of time, youll begin to see the world from the perspective of your goals. You wont see the world from the perspective of your current circumstances.Youll only see your goals and possibilities. Theyll be more real to you than your present circumstances. Your brain will see the world differently.Your behavior will be different.Your mindset and emotions will be different.Youll feel far greater gratitude and awe for life.Youll feel a deeper connection to yourself, God, and others. Youll love other people more. Youll love yourself more. Youll love life more.Because you feel a greater connection, youll feel safer about life. Because you feel safer, youll be more imaginative and creative - and thus more willing to take risks and embrace advent ure.Youll learn stuff that is outside your comfort zone.Youll be willing to set wildly unrealistic goals.Every morning, youll have 1530 minutes of complete creative fun in the cave of your journal.Your morning journal then becomes the doorway to a new universe where anything is possible.Youll write with greater and greater intensity and joy. You stop inhibiting yourself with your conscious mind and allow your subconscious mind to take-over - stream-of-consciousness writing.You stop editing yourself.You just write.And as you write, youll see CRAZY and AMAZING things go from your hand to your pen to your paper to your head all from your heart.Wow Did I really just write that? says your conscious mind.Absolutely, echoes your increasingly confident subconscious.4. Put your phone on airplane mode more oftenEfforts to deepen your focus will struggle if you dont simultaneously wean your mind from a dependence on distraction. - Cal Newport, Deep Work Rules for Focused Success in a Distrac ted WorldTime is the ultimate currency in life.But in a world of constant connection to screens, a more accurate currency is time spent elend looking at screens.The amount of time you spend not looking at a screen reflects the quality of your actual life.You can use screens to entertain yourself and produce amazing work. But that work, although interesting and important, should produce a better quality of life in the real world for you.How much time do you spend away from screens on a daily basis?Perhaps more importantly, how much time do you spend staring at screens during prime-time, which is in the evenings and morning?How present are you to the world and those around you?How much time and genuine attention do you give your loved ones?How much do they feel your love?As someone who is the parent of children from a rough background, I have learned that children need to know you love them. They need to feel protected, like they matter. Research shows that parents habits around cellp hones directly influences the emotional well-being and future habits of their children.Which means that given most peoples habits around technology, the rising generation is basically doomed to digital addiction and distraction.It doesnt need to be this way.Children need to be taught how to control their emotions and impulses. They need to know they matter. They need to feel your love.This isnt just true of children. Its true of spouses and, really, all relationships.How good is your relationship with others? The answer to that question is a pretty accurate indicator of your level of happiness and purpose in life. Thomas Monson said, Never let a goal to be solved become more important than a person to be loved. Sadly, in the case of the world today, people not only put their goals above their loved ones, but they put mindless time-wasters and screen scrolling above their loved ones.Put your phone on airplane mode and watch as your life improves.The more present you can be in life, t he more creative youll be, the better your mind will function, the more youll be able to concentrate and focus.If you give yourself space away from your notifications and distractions at night, youll have a far more meaningful, deep, and enjoyable life. Youll EXPERIENCE more of the world - rather than your screen.As you give yourself space away from your notifications and distractions in the morning, youll have the rare but available privilege of putting yourself into a peak-state every morning, wherein you prime your mindset, emotions, and brain to operate from your ideal future.That brain priming will create peak experiences, which will allow you to feel deep awe, gratitude, and inspiration on a daily basis. Those emotions will change how you see and act in the world.Youll live more powerfully.Youll be less apathetic.Youll begin taking on bigger challenges, and thus, your life will become less predictive of the past. Youll be able to engage your mind in creative and imaginative t hinking - which will change how you view yourself and the future.Your life may look and feel pretty average now. But in 365 days, you may just be embarrassed by who you are right now.Your life may start looking wildly creative, imaginative, and non-conventional.You yourself may become a unique and peculiar person - one with skills and abilities to attract amazing mentors, business partners, and friends.5. Go on walks A.M.A.P (as much as possible)Steve Jobs, the late co-founder of Apple, was known for his walking meetings. Facebooks Mark Zuckerberg has also been seen holding meetings on foot. A recent study by Stanford researchers further explains why walking enhances creativity and insights.The study found that walking indoors or outdoors similarly boosted creative inspiration. Across the board, creativity levels were consistently and significantly higher for those walking compared to those sitting.Many people anecdotally claim they do their best thinking when walking. We finally may be taking a step, or two, toward discovering why, Dr. Oppezzo and Dr. Schwartz wrote in the study published this week in the Journal of Experimental Psychology Learning, Memory and Cognition.Whether you walk in the morning, afternoon, or evening, youll be stunned by the creative insights and clarity that come as you give yourself space to walk.Lately, Ive been walking between 3 and 6 miles per day in the mornings while listening to audiobooks. Wow The amount of inspiration and insights I get during unterstellung walks often leads me to start running, so I can get back to my car and start putting all of the inspiration to work.Start walking. Your life will change, as will your health.The potent combination of writing your goals down daily and giving yourself SPACE to think will change your life. It will help you clarify your goals. It will give you the insights and ideas you need to achieve your goals. It will help you know what you need to do, right now, to make needed adjustmen ts in your relationships and daily tasks to move forward.Not only is walking good for creativity, its one of the best things you can do for your longevity. In the book, The Blue Zones Lessons for Living Longer From the People Whove Lived the Longest, Dan Buettner studied the cultures that produce the most healthy 100-year-olds. A common theme he found among these populations is that those who reach 100 years and older often have a daily habit of walking.Go on daily walks and live to be 100.6. Clearly prioritize your lifeIf you have more than three priorities in your life, you have none. - Jim CollinsYour priorities are more important than your values and goals because quite literally, your priorities are where these things become real.Your priorities reflect your priorities and goals.If you are not doing something in your life, like exercise, for example, its not because you dont have time. Rather, its because it is not a priority to you.Anything you are not currently doing on a re gular basis IS NOT A PRIORITY TO YOU.If you say spirituality is a priority to you, but you rarely engage in it, then you are lying to yourself.If you say investing in your future is a priority to you, but you spend most of your time distracted on the internet, then you are lying to yourself.Your daily behaviors are a mirror - an honest assessment of your priorities in life.Your priorities reflect to both yourself and the world what you value and what you aspire towards.If you can get your priorities right, then you can generally get everything else right.So, what are your priorities?What are the things that matter more than anything to you?What do you believe in?What do you stand for?What do you want for your life?If you cant answer these questions, then you cant prioritize your time and your life. And as a result, you wont have the clarity, confidence, or motivation to focus your time and attention toward building the future you desire.Get clear on your priorities and productivity becomes easy.7. Eliminate all non-priorities (your life is a product of your standards)Writing your goals in your journal every morning helps your brain create the outcomes youre striving to create. Writing your priorities in your journal regularly helps ensure youre pursuing the right goals.As you hone and clarify your priorities, have the courage to eliminate all the things in your life that dont match.No one is perfect at this. For all of us, there is a mismatch between our daily behaviors and what we want our priorities to be.It is your responsibility to spend the majority of your time on your core priorities. Only then will they actually be priorities.If you dont think you can do this, then your subconscious hasnt been expanded enough yet. Once you expand your subconscious, your life will reflect your priorities (more on this below).The first step is courageously eliminating everything that isnt what you believe in or want for yourself. This act, in itself, is a profound messa ge to yourself and others that you are serious about something.Spend all of your time on those things you value most - on those things which you believe go beyond the here-and-now. The more time you can spend on things you believe to be of infinite worth, the more powerful your daily life and behavior will be.As a rule, I only invest my time in things that add to my present experience and my future. Thus, I invest time in relationships that I plan to have forever, like with my family and friends. I invest time in my education and growth. I invest time on work I believe in. I invest in experiences that create profound memories.What do you invest time in?Is this investment making your future better than your past?8. Become more playful and imaginativeImagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand. - Albert EinsteinLife is meant to be a joy, not a grind.You get to be creative and playful about how you design and live your life. In fact, you are a creator. If man is made in the image of god, then man is, by nature, a creator.Even if you dont believe in God, research clearly shows that imagination is linked to learning and emotional wellbeing. moraover, the opposite is also true the less emotionally mature a person is, the less likely they are to be imaginative and creative about themselves and their lives.Dr. Carol Dweck has produced some of the most important research in psychology in the past 50 years. The essence of her work is that many people have a fixed mindset about themselves, wherein they believe they cant learn, change, and develop. Others have a growth mindset, wherein they believe they can change, grow, and evolve.If you have a fixed mindset, then imagination probably isnt a big part of your life.Having imagination means youre mentally and emotionally flexible. In order to be mentally and emotional ly flexible, you need to feel protected in your relationships - particularly with your parents, your higher power if you have one, and other key people in your life.In order to be imaginative, you have to see beyond what is currently in front of you. You need to be willing to see things that may or may not be real or true, but could be.Imagination is about playing and creating - without respect to the outcome. Being imaginative about your future means you believe you can do and be things that others cant see.Youre not interested in odds or statistics. Instead, youre driven by curiosity and play. Youre motivated by your WHY and whats possible.You dont care if other people cant see the future you can see. Youre a creator. You know you can learn and transform. Youve done it in the past, and youll do it again.Like Einstein, you emphasize imagination over knowledge.9. Create more peak experiencesPeak experiences as rare, exciting, oceanic, deeply moving, exhilarating, elevating experie nces that generate an advanced form of perceiving reality, and are even mystic and magical in their effect upon the experimenter. - Abraham MaslowMaslow said that, in order to become self-actualized as a person, you need to have a multitude of peak-experiences.Peak experiences are those moments where your soul is stretched such that it cannot go back to its prior dimensions.Peak experiences, by nature, are novel and new. They involve experiencing or seeing the world in a new way.In order for you to have a peak experience, you need to be open to new experiences. You need to be humble.Peak experiences are more likely to happen outside of your comfort zone. They generally involve experiential learning.Last week, my wife gave birth to two beautiful twin girls. They have my heart. They are gorgeous. Last week was a peak experience for me. Im now a new person. My motivation has changed. My priorities have honed and clarified. My vision for my future has expanded.Creating peak experiences is how you change the trajectory of your life. They are those pivotal moments that are so meaningful that they serve as check-points - core memories - directing your future path.Peak experiences dont need to be rare. They are only as rare as your courage is exercised. If you begin being courageous daily, youll start having more peak experiences.As you have more peak experiences, your emotional wellbeing will increase, and thus, your imagination and ability to direct and create your future will expand.But even more - through having peak experiences, your memory will change.A healthy memory is a changing memory. As you have new and powerful experiences, youll create new associations with your past, and thus, change the very fabric of your memories and identity.Put simply, you can and must create experiences that change your identity. As your identity changes, your future will change. Einstein wisely said, The measure of intelligence is the ability to change. Change can only happen by imagining a different world, and then courageously seeking new and expansive experiences. Change happens as you learn and expand your world.10. Deepen your relationship with your parentsThe parent-child connection is the most powerful mental health intervention known to mankind. - Bessel van der KolkIn the important book, The Body Keeps The Score, Bessel van der Kolk M.D. explains that suppressed emotions and trauma lead people to unhealthy and addictive cycles.One of the most fundamental components of making a positive change in your life is developing a healthy relationship with your parents - whether they are alive or not.Your relationship with your parents is a powerful indicator of your emotional well-being as a person. It doesnt matter how successful you appear on the outside, if you dont have this key relationship established, then chances are you are an emotional wreck.Oftentimes, people have toxic or unhealthy parents. These parents should be viewed and treated with l ove and forgiveness, not spite and disdain. As you improve your own life and deepen the relationship with your parents, you often give them permission to expand and evolve themselves.They need you just as much as you need them.11. Develop other protection relationshipsIn a recent interview, Kobe Bryant told the story of his first year playing basketball at age 11. He scored zero points. He was terrible.After that season, his dad looked him in the eyes and said, I dont care if you scored 60 points or 0 points. I will love you no matter what.That was exactly what Kobe needed to hear. He knew that regardless of his behavior - he was safe. His father would love him.This protection gave Kobe permission to fail. It gave him permission to take risks. The buffer of his fathers love allowed Kobe to step outside of his comfort zone - to the only place high performance can exist.If you dont feel protected in your relationships, it can be hard to push your own boundaries. It can be hard to be free because youre actually a slave to the relationship. This is living in an unhealthy dependent state where everything you do is based on trying to please other people.But when you feel loved and protected regardless of outcomes, then you can rise to independence and attempt things that will likely fail, often.The next season, Kobe began failing intensely and as a result, he began learning intensely. He left his comfort zone behind and began playing in the realms of creativity and imagination - where no limits were placed upon him.All he had to do was step beyond the boundaries of who he had been in the past, and step into the new role and identity emblazoned in his own imagination and fortified by his fathers love.He embraced the unknown over and over because he was willing to be free - free to see what was possible, to fail, to explore, to create. Free to become legendary.Do you have powerful protection relationships in your life?Do you feel stabilized and safe?Do you have a firm foundation that allows you the flexibility to jump way outside of your comfort zone, and yet be safe?12. Less avoidance-behaviorsIn psychology, there are two core forms of behavior - avoidance or approach.Avoidance-behaviors are where youre putting energy toward avoiding something from happening. Avoidance-behaviors are generally focused on risks, rather than the potential for growth.Avoidance-behaviors often happen when you dont have protection and emotional-safety in your life. For example, Kobe Bryants first year playing summer basketball reflected avoidance-playing. He didnt feel free to fail, so he avoided failure. He was worried about his dads love and opinion. Therefore, he wasnt free to be imaginative and creative.He was playing life on emotional defense because he wasnt protected.When you feel safe and secure emotionally and spiritually, you are empowered to play life on offense - approach behavior.And approach-orientation toward life doesnt mean youre a reckless ris k-taker. What it means is that you are willing to courageously face risks to accomplish meaningful and important goals.When the WHY is strong enough, youll be willing to endure any how.Youre less worried about the risks or difficulty involved because your focus is on your goals and dreams. Your priorities are clear. Youre moving forward. Nothing is going to stop you.13. More subconscious-enhancing behaviors/experiencesEvery behavior and experience you have in your life either elevates or downgrades your subconscious mind.Your subconscious mind reflects what you perceive and experience as normal in the world.As Dr. David Hawkins explains in his book, Letting Go Our unconscious will allows us to have only what we believe we deserve. If we have a small view of ourselves, then what we deserve is poverty. And our unconscious will see to it that we have that actuality.Every behavior signals to your subconscious what you think you deserve and what you believe about the world.When you sit a nd stare at your cellphone mindlessly, your subconscious structures your world around that reality. You see that behavior as normal, and your life then formulates itself around the quality of that behavior.But you can create subconscious enhancing experiences.You can have experiences that radically expand your subconscious perception of normal. You can regularly reset what normal life is for you.You can create a new normal regularly.You do this by having powerful experiences and by behaving in powerful ways. You can create experiences on a daily basis that reset your perception of normal.I recently decided to treat myself to a fine-dining experience as an experiment in subconscious resetting. I went to a really great restaurant in a different country, and just soaked-up and absorbed the experience.This is normal, I felt.Being surrounded by brilliant and interesting people can become normal.Engaging in powerful and important daily behaviors can become normal.Feeling inspired and livi ng in a peak-state can be normal.Not worrying about money every day can be normal.Having transformational experiences daily can be normal.Whats crazy is that, over time, your life really will change. It may be imperceptible and subtle. But your daily life and daily experiences will be radically different than they were 2 to 3 years ago.Youll have reset your normal world. This should happen regularly.14. Become more emotionally flexibleYour emotional flexibility represents your ability to regulate your emotions in challenging situations.How flexible are you?How adaptive are you?Do you control your emotions or do your emotions control you?Everything you want in your life is on the other side of fear. However, in order to get there, you must courageously cross that threshold and then successfully navigate the unknown of being outside of your comfort zone.Emotional flexibility, then, represents your ability to 1) step outside of your comfort zone, and 2) successfully navigate the emotio nal craziness of the unknown.The only way to become more emotionally flexible is to practice. To regularly expose yourself directly to what you fear and avoid. To move forward.You must be more courageous.You must try stuff that might not work.You must be bolder.Then, as you experience the emotional shock of the unknown, you need to get better at moving forward toward your goals - regardless of how you feel in the moment.This doesnt mean you suppress your emotions. Nor does it mean you ignore them.Instead, you appreciate and acknowledge your emotions as a real factor in your situation. Then you allow those emotions to be a part of your experience and you continue to direct your focus on your goals, not the perceived risks or threats you think may happen.This is being approach-oriented.This is being courageous.This is how you shatter unhealthy emotional patterns.This is how you shatter subconscious blocks.This is how you re-write your memories and heal your past traumas and blocks. B y proactively creating your future, you simultaneously heal your past.You need to shock your system. To quote Napoleon Hill, A good shock often helps the brain that has been atrophied by habit.15. Focus on 90-day sprints rather than New Years ResolutionsNew Years Resolutions dont work. Think we know that by now.So whats a better method?A better method is setting 90-day sprint goals. Every 90 days, you review the previous 90 days, then you set new goals for the next 90 days.Every 90 days, you reset and re-assess.Some epic questions you could ask yourself every 90 days come from Dan Sullivan, who has coached more successful entrepreneurs than anyone on the planetWinning Achievements? Looking back over the past quarter, what are the things that make you the proudest about what you have achieved?Whats Hot? When you look at everything thats going on today, which areas of focus and progress are making you the most confident?Bigger and Better? Now, looking ahead at the next quarter, what n ew things are giving you the greatest sense of excitement?What are the five new jumps you can now achieve that will make your next 90 days a great quarter regardless of what else happens?Every 90 days, you should have a celebration for the progress youve made. You should focus on results rather than time spent.Every 90 days, you should see clear and tangible progress toward your goals.Every 90 days, you should be able to observe changes in your environment, income, and life.Every 90 days, your life should increasingly reflect your highest priorities.You can do this.Forget New Years Resolutions. 90-day sprints, then recovery breaks, are much better. Theyre more sustainable. Theyre more action-oriented. They allow you quicker feedback and more energy, results, and excitement.16. Rest moreRecovery never stops. - Mike Mancias, LeBron James performance coachRecovery is productivity.Sleep is for geniuses.Rest isnt just sleeping. Its taking breaks. Its focusing on short spurts of intense activity, followed by long breaks filled with fun and engaging experiences.How imaginative are you about the design of your life?In his TED talk, Stefan Sagmeister shares his unique story of how he focuses on recovery.Hes a famous designer in New York. Every seventh year, he closes his senderaum and spends a full year traveling the world and not working.Yet, during this recovery time, he gets more creative insights and inspiration to fill the next six years.If you apply this principle to your daily life, you can have far more creativity and inspiration in your life. Proactively give yourself quality time away from your work.The better quality your life is away from work, the more effective and creative youll be while youre at work. This concept is known as psychological detachment from work.Research has found that people who psychologically detach from work experienceLess work-related fatigue and procrastinationFar greater engagement at work, which is defined as vigor, dedication, a nd absorption (i.e., flow)Greater work-life balance, which directly relates to quality of lifeGreater marital satisfactionGreater mental health17. Think moreIm talking about deliberately setting aside distraction-free time in a distraction-free space to do absolutely nothing other than think. - Greg McKeown, Essentialism The Disciplined Pursuit of LessOne of the reasons you need to give yourself time in the morning and evening is simply to allow yourself the space to think.How much time do you spend just thinking daily?Another reason to walk regularly is to provide time to think.The more time you have to think deeply about your life, your goals, and your priorities, the better decisions youll make regarding those things.While Im walking - even if Im listening to audiobooks - Im also thinking about my life and goals. In fact, Im often getting so many ideas that I need to carry a notepad with me to capture the ideas.In large measure, the quality of your thinking determines the qual ity of your life.Most people have the same recurring thoughts, every single day. In fact, 95% of a persons thoughts each day are the same thoughts as yesterday. This is a horribly ineffective use of the creative brain.If youre constantly upgrading your life and learning new things, then your thoughts will continually be changing, expanding, and connecting.Youll become a creative genius.Youll more fully enjoy life.Youll achieve your goals more quickly because youll learn how to turn your thoughts into reality.You wont get stuck for years in the same repetitive thought patterns.Give yourself time to think.Record your thoughts.Get better at training the garden of your mind.What you plant, you will reap.18. Give moreLife gives to the giver and takes from the taker. - Joe PolishOne of the most powerful mental transitions a person can make is going from taker to giver.As a parent of five children, I can attest that, primarily, these children are focused on getting. Without question, they give a lot of love. But for the most part, they are interested in their own survival and needs.Becoming self-actualized as a person means youve developed the inner and outer confidence to have your own needs met. You can then dedicate the rest of your life to contributing to the world at large and transforming lives.Darren Hardy, the author of the Compound Effect, has said, A persons life can generally be measured by the size of the problems they are trying to solve.What size of problems are you solving in the world?How much do you really want to contribute?Are you still primarily focused on what you can get out of life, or what you can give?When it comes to powerful relationships, you will not be able to develop them from a transactional-approach, wherein youre trying to get everything you can from the relationship.Joe Polish is the founder of GENIUS NETWORK, considered by many to be the top-tier of entrepreneurial masterminds. He has a list of rules that he expects of those whom he interacts with. He calls it his Magic Rapport Formula. The principles of his formula are the followingFocus on how you will help them reduce their sufferingInvest time, money, and energy on relationshipsBe the type of person they would always answer the phone forBe useful, grateful, and valuableTreat others how you would love to be treatedAvoid formalities, be fun and memorable, not boringAppreciate peopleGive value on the spotGet as close to in-person as you canYou must evolve beyond your small-mindedness to a transformational-relationship approach, wherein you are entirely focused on giving, gratitude, and growth.19. Invest more in yourselfAlthough a religious example, this next story is incredibly instructive and fascinating.George Q. Cannon was a leader of the Latter-Day Saint Church some time ago. As a young and impoverished man, he approached his tithing practice in a unique way. Tithing, in that faith, is Biblical and encourages members to pay 10% of their income.But Georg e was highly imaginative in how he paid his tithing. Rather than paying retroactively, wherein he paid 10% of what he earned, he decided to pay 10% of what he intended to earn in his future.In a talk, Dr. Wendy Watson further expounded on this storyWhen his bishop commented on the large amount of tithing poor young George was paying, George said something like Oh bishop, Im not paying tithing on what I make. Im paying tithing on what I want to make. And the very next year George earned exactly the amount of money he had paid tithing on the year beforeGeorge Q. Cannon was not transactional in his religious approach to tithing. He was transformational. He didnt see tithing as a cost, but an investment in himself and his relationship with his faith.Whether you are spiritually-minded or not, the implications of this story are psychologically instructive.How was he able to turn his financial investments into upgraded skills and mindsets?Rather than acting from your present circumstances, you act from your future circumstances.Rather than living from the present or past, you can assume the feeling of your wish fulfilled.This is one of the reasons to write down your goals daily - it allows you to live as though your desired future is already a concrete fact.But this is also another reason to invest money in yourself, your relationships, your priorities, and your future. When you invest in something, you upgrade your subconscious mindset around that thing. Essentially, youre saying to yourself - I can be, do, and have more than I currently am. This is why imagination is so key.In George Cannons case, he invested in his relationship with his God, which led to a 10X transformation. Investment is always a more powerful mindset than seeing things as a cost.20. Invest more in othersNever believe that a few caring people cant change the world. For, indeed, thats all who ever have. - Margaret MeadYou love what you invest yourself in. You love who you invest yourself in. W rote William Shakespeare, They do not love that do not show their love.Love comes after investment - emotional, time, financial, etc. - when it comes to relationships. Love is a powerful force, but it is not so much a feeling as it is a verb.Love is an action. The ensuing feelings we often call love is really connection - something which is quite rare these days.The more you invest of yourself in others, the more connected youll be to them. The more you invest yourself in humanity, the more youll care about this entire planet. And the more youll see that people are important, every single person.21. Invest more in organizations/causes you believe inFor success, like happiness, cannot be pursued it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of ones personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of ones surrender to a person other than oneself. - Viktor E. Frankl, Mans Search for MeaningWhat are you deeply committed to?What do you truly believe in?Do you even know?Success and happiness are unintended side-effects that come from being dedicated to something you truly believe in.Success and happiness are unintended side-effects that come from being intensely invested in someone elses success and happiness.If youre still trying to find happiness for yourself, youll be searching for a long time, and likely in all the wrong places.Hence, for most people, happiness is an elusive illusion leaving them chasing. As the Indian author and educator Ruskin Bond said, Happiness is an elusive state of mind not to be gained by clumsy pursuit. It is given to those who do not sue for it to be unconcerned about the desired good is probably the only way to possess it.22. Focus on progress over timeThe faster you move, the slower time passes, the longer you live. - Peter H. DiamandisTime, as we understand it, is an arbitrary construct.In physics, time is not the passing of minutes on a clock. Rather, time is the velocity and distance traveled by a particular object.Light travels at approximately 186,282 miles per second (299,792 km per second). Therefore, a light-year is 5.88 trillion miles (9.5 trillion km).The earth is 238,900 miles from the Moon. Therefore, the Moon is about 1.3 light-seconds away.The earth is 92.96 million miles from the Sun. Therefore, the Sun is a little over 8 light-minutes away.The earth is 33.9 million miles (54.6 million kilometers) from Mars. Therefore, Mars is 187 light-seconds, or 3.11 light-minutes away.Each of these are a measure of distance.Recent research in the science journal Astronomy Astrophysics, shows that our Milky Way galaxy may be bigger than we previously imagined. Specifically, our spiral galaxys vast rotating disk of stars spans at least 170,000 light-years, and possibly up to 200,000 light-years.If you could drive across at an averaged 60 miles an hour, it would take more than 2 trillion years - which is around 150 times greater than the age of the universe, esti mated to be about 13.8 1000 milliarden years.The point of all of this is to say, time is not time as we understand it. Time is actually a measurement of distance. According to Einsteins relativity theory, the faster an object moves through space, the slower time goes. At the speed of light, time stops altogether.In the Christopher Nolan film, Interstellar, there is a beautiful scene that depicts the reality of time dilation - the stretching and constricting of time.The astronauts enter the orbit of a planet in a different galaxy moving enormously faster than the orbit of our earth. In fact, the planet is moving so fast that for every hour they spend on that planet, seven years pass by on earth.As a result, they need to move quickly, because if they lose a few hours then everyone they know back home will be history.The experience of time is the same for everyone - regardless of how fast youre traveling. But the reality of time is based on distance traveled.Why are we talking about this?Because you shouldnt measure your life based on how long something takes. Instead, you should measure your life based on how far you go.Time is a distance.From this perspective, you could travel the same distance in a single day that many people travel in their entire lives.And without question, most people are simply trying to pass away the time. Because they arent making tangible progress toward any meaningful goals, time flies by. They are simply working for the weekend, because the rest of their week is almost too painful to endure.Why is it too painful to endure?Because they arent actually making any meaningful progress.But if you start being courageous and powerfully honest with yourself, you can move farther as a person in a day than you have in potentially years or decades.If you make acting courageously a way of life, you can start traveling so fast that - as a few hours pass by for you, years or decades have occurred for those around you.The faster you move in the de sired direction, the slower time will move for you.23. Focus on purpose over processWhen a measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure. - Marilyn StrathernTime relativity is a reason to focus on results over process. Many people argue that you should focus solely on the process and ignore the results you get in life.But, the world doesnt really work this way.The world works based on outcomes and results.At the end of the month, youre still going to have to pay your rent - regardless of how masterful your process is.According to Dan Sullivan, there are two types of people those who get results and those who have reasons for not getting results. Dont be a person with reasons. Ironically, one of the most common reasons people say they arent getting results is because they dont care about them, but instead, only care about the process.Even though Alabama Football says their only focus is the process, you better believe Nick Saban is upset if they dont win.The process is a means to an end - the goal youre trying to accomplish. The goal determines the process, not the other way around.In the book, So Good They Cant Ignore You Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love, Dr. Cal Newport explains that many young people mistakenly seek a life of passion.According to Newport, people seek a job they are passionate about because they are self-absorbed. Theyre only thinking of themselves.Instead of seeking passion, Newport recommends you go through the laborious process of developing rare skills and abilities for the purpose of helping other people. In other words, become incredibly useful to others and society at large.Rather than seeking passion directly, passion is an unintended byproduct of doing something well. When youve invested yourself into something, you love that thing.But most people want instant gratification. They want cheap love. They dont want to earn something.An obsession and focus on process is equivalent to an obsession and f ocus on passion. Its entirely focused on the self.Instead, you should have something important and meaningful youre attempting to accomplish. As the saying goes, When the WHY is strong enough, youll figure out the HOW.The process should be fluid. As Tony Robbins said, Stay committed to your decisions but stay flexible in your approach.If youre truly committed to something, then youll do whatever it takes to get that thing - regardless of whether or not you enjoy the process. For you, the work is too important not to do. Youre not committed to any specific approach - youre only committed to achieving what you believe needs to be done.According to Albert Einstein, The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results. If youre not currently successful at what youre doing, then youre probably going to have to change your process. Unless of course, you really dont care about the results. Then you can keep doing what youre doing. But do nt get mad if things dont change.24. Focus on skills over passionPassion comes after you put in the hard work to become excellent at something valuable, not before. In other words, what you do for a living is much less important than how you do it. - Cal NewportRather than looking for your passion or looking for that perfect process, decide what you either want to do, or believe you should do, and then go about getting that thing.The steeper the learning curve, the better.In the book, The Art of Learning A Journey in the Pursuit of Excellence, Josh Waitzkin tells the story of how he become a world champion in Tai Chi.When given unsupervised practice time, Waizkin observed that most others in his Tai Chi class would naturally practice with those at their same skill-level or slightly worse. This was done in many ways out of ego, because who wants to lose? Its more fun to beat someone when given the opportunity.Waitzkin took the opposite approach, and applied a principle he termed, in vesting in failure. He would purposefully practice with people far more skilled than he was. In so doing, he would get the crap kicked out of him, over and over.However, this process - rooted in his desire to advance himself - compressed and quickened Waitzkins skill development. He could experience first-hand the abilities of those often years ahead of him. The mirror neurons in his brain allowed him to quickly mimic, match, and counter his superior competitors. Thus, he progressed much faster than others in his class.How steep is your current learning curve?How fast are you learning?How much are you failing?Are you avoiding failure and loss?If so, what does that say about your imagination for yourself?If youre avoiding failure and loss, what does that say about the depth of your WHY?Its been said that you do not rise to the occasion, but instead, fall to the level of your preparation. But how do you effectively prepare yourself?How could I properly prepare myself to immediately go from zero to three kids when my wife and I became foster parents?I could have spent years reading books, going to seminars, and learning everything I could to prepare myself for parenting. And Im sure a lot of that stuff would have been helpful.But instead, we simply threw ourselves into the fire of learning.Did we fall flat on our face several times? Absolutely We still do, especially now that we have five kidsBut experiential learning is far more powerful than abstract learning.The best form of preparation is by rising to an occasion.The fastest way to learn something is when the stakes are high. When the situation is set up so that youre getting immediate feedback on your performance. When it really matters that you adjust and figure stuff out.According to The Pygmalion Effect in psychology, human beings actually do rise or fall according to the demands and expectations of the situation. Therefore, if you really want to develop skills and abilities, dont wait until youre ready to start.Those who become successful always start long before they feel ready.They live in an approach-manner, rather than an avoidance-manner. Rather than trying to accumulate an enormous amount of information BEFORE acting, they take action first, and then based on the intensity of the feedback they receive, they THEN have the clarity to acquire the right information to properly move forward.Put simply, you are never pre-qualified to do something great. It is the act of doing the thing that qualifies and transforms you.25. Focus on relationships over moneyIt pays to be nice to the people you meet on the way up, for they are the same people you meet on the way down. - Wilson MiznerWhen you decide you really want to be successful, then you realize that you must develop meaningful and important relationships.Life is about who you know, more than what you know. In other words, you could have all the skills and abilities in the world, but if you cant work well with people, your chanc es of success are far diminished. However, if you have skills and learn how to use those skills to help the right people, your success will skyrocket.26. Focus on family over surface-level friendshipsYou leave home to seek your fortune and, when you get it, you go home and share it with your family. - Anita BakerFamilies are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter. - Brad HenryNo other success can compensate for failure in the home. - J.E. McCullochThere is some wild research on how children develop emotional maturity and flexibility in life - and it depends very much on the care they get from their parents.In the book, Hold On to Your Kids Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, Gabor Mat M.D. explains the negative psychological consequences that happen when children emotionally attach to peers, rather than parents.When children and adolescents build their deepest emotional attachments with the ir peers, then they become obsessed with that attachment. This attachment can lead them to become less creative, imaginative, and flexible in their lives.Put simply, you need deep and healthy bonds with family. If you dont have a family, then build one. Said bestselling author, Ryan HolidayFor all the productivity and success advice Ive read, shaped and marketed for dozens of authors in the last decade, Ive never really seen someone come out and say Find yourself a spouse who complements and supports you and makes you better. Instead, were supposed to believe that relationships tie people down, that they are the death knell for creativity and ambition.27. Focus on creativity over consumptionWhen you can do a common thing in an uncommon way you will command the attention of the world. - George Washington CarverYou cant use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have. - Maya AngelouIf it doesnt sell it isnt creative. - David OgilvyThe principal mark of genius is not perfecti on but originality, the opening of new frontiers. - Arthur KoestlerVulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. - Bren BrownTrue creativity takes courage.It takes courage because creativity in its most honest and pure form is what Seth Godin calls, Emotional labor.Creativity is transformational because it involves imagination and attempting something that could fail. It involves unveiling a certain side of yourself to others in attempts of creating a connection.Creativity heals and transforms former wounds, making you a far more capable and powerful person. Its fascinating, but research has shown that creativity can help people overcome addictions.Addiction is an unhealthy attempt to resolve suppressed trauma and pain. The only way out of suppressed emotion is through courageously moving forward in life.When you create something, you go deep into an emotional place and release it in a new form. This creative act can shift your memories and emotions, allowi ng them to become healthy and changed.Creativity not only transforms your emotional life, but it can also transform your financial life. Professionals create, while the masses consume.Everything youve ever bought or used was created by someone else.What are you creating?28. Focus on growth over statusMost people, if they are honest with themselves, want success because of some form of status it will give them. They wont admit this to you, but deep down, the status is what matters.It is for this reason that success is generally short-lived for most people. Once they achieve a certain degree of status, their motivation for doing the work goes away.When your focus is on status, your job becomes to create and maintain that status. This is particularly common in todays social media world where everyone is attempting to be famous for one thing or another.Growth often comes at the expense of status.In order to keep growing, youll need to risk the status and success of your past for somethi ng new and better.The reason most writers will never succeed is that ultimately, what they really want is status. Yet, deep down, they also feel this strange belief that they need to be pure to their art, so they dont want to do it for money.People who go on to become successful at something are not afraid of success. They arent afraid of making money. But money inherently isnt interesting to them. They are fascinated by growth and pushing their own boundaries. They can never actually quantify success because, for them, that very idea is continuously changing.Theyve never arrived, and they never intend to arrive.They dont care about their previous achievements. They dont care about their status.Do they have a status? Of course When growth is your focus, status generally comes. But that status doesnt matter. Theres no attachment to it. And theres certainly no fear about losing that status.People seeking growth are willing to embrace the unknown. Theyre willing to fail. Theyre willing to attempt stuff that may not work. Actually, when true growth - seeing how far you can actually go - is your only true measure of success, then youre willing to risk everything youve previously built to attempt what you want or believe you should do.29. Focus on learning over entertainmentChange is the end result of all true learning. - Leo BuscagliaWhile I thought that I was learning how to live, I have been learning how to die. - Leonardo da VinciIf you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. Youre doing things youve never done before, and more importantly, youre doing something. - Neil GaimanYou dont learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over. - Richard BransonI started this article by saying that you could change your whole life in a single year.2019 could be your year to transform your life.But you cannot change your life without lea rning something new. Because the process of change forces you to adapt.If you strive to make big leaps in your life, youll be forced out of your shell of comfort. By very nature of being out of that shell, youll experience a great deal of stress. If you acquire emotional flexibility by properly handling those emotions, then youll transform yourselfYoull change your relationship with your emotions.Youll change your memories and your past.Youll also transform your brain and your very biology.If youre not embarrassed by the person you were 12 months ago, then you didnt learn much.Rather than asking yourself How long could this take?, a more interesting question is, How far could you go?How far could you go in a single year?The faster you move, the slower time passes.In the next 12 months, you could learn and do more than many people do in their entire lives. According to Jean-Jacques Rousseau, The person who has lived the most is not the one with the most years but the one with the ric hest experiences.Transformational experiences are those peak experiences that alter your life.How many peak experiences have you had in the past 12 months?How many peak experiences are you going to have in the next 12 months?How many mornings are you going to wake up and immediately put yourself into a peak state?30. Focus on investment over costThe cynic knows the price of everything and the value of nothing. - Oscar WildeNothing is a cost.Everything is an investment.And the more you look at life as an investment, the more youll focus on what you can give rather than what you can get.This is what blows my mind about most people they arent willing to invest in themselves. They see things like education, mentorships, mastermind groups, and other similar things as a cost.In other words, they dont believe they are worth it.However, when your mindset shifts from cost, to investment, then you start investing big time in yourself, your skills, your relationships, your environment, and th e other things that are important to you.When you come from the perspective of investment, you are totally open. When you come from the perspective of cost, you are closed off.Investment is how George Q. Cannon saw his tithing. Perhaps most people see it as a cost.Investment transforms. Cost doesnt.Do you see yourself as a cost or an investment?Do you see your relationships as a cost or an investment?Do you see your work as a cost or an investment?When you shift to investment, you begin to experience 10X thinking. You begin to stretch your subconscious mindset about what you can have and be and do.You come to realize that you as a person are incredibly flexible and fluid. In other words, you can change and transform. Investing in yourself shatters unhealthy subconscious patterns and courageously places yourself in a higher and more elevated plane, wherein you can rise to new occasions.Are you going to invest big in yourself in 2019?Are you going to focus on giving, gratitude, and gr owth?Are you going to be transformational?Are you going to go 10X in 2019?Have you ever gone 10X before?You can do this when you start investing in yourself. When you stop seeing yourself as a cost.Ready to upgrade?Ive created a cheat sheet for putting yourself into a PEAK-STATE, immediately. You follow this daily, your life will change very quickly.Get the cheat sheet hereThis article first appeared on Medium.

How to Apply for Your First Job Out of College - The Muse

How to Apply for Your First Job Out of College - The MuseHow to Apply for Your First Job Out of CollegeCongratulations college seniors- youre mere weeks away from being done with school forever (or for now, at least). Its time to celebrate, time to rejoice in the luxury of no more homework, and time to departeure the job hunt.While some people hear job hunt and panic, you shouldnt As daunting as the process can seem, it is a process, and that means anyone can do it successfully. With that said, the first time can be a little overwhelming, which is where I come in- Ive put together this guide of everything you need to send in your first application.Lets get startedStep 1 Figure Out What You Want to DoFirst up, the big question that has no right answer What do you want to do with your life? Wait- before you fill in the blank, know this You dont need to figure out your life right now, just your first job (elendhings permanent). If you have no idea where to even start, consider your favo rite classes or discussions in college, activities and clubs youre involved in, really anything youve enjoyed in the past few years. What issues get you riled up? What topics bore you to tears? Your initial responses to these should get you close to an industry, if not an actual title. You can refine it even more by asking yourself these questions from Muse writer Lily Zhang What can I do to help other people? What does my ideal day look like? What do I find intolerable?Still not aya? Take a look at the company profiles on The Muse and see what sounds interesting to you.Step 2 Curate Your Online PresenceNow that you know what industry youd like to go into, its time to start crafting your verbunden presence to fit that. Because in almost every single field, you will be Googled by a hiring manager- and you dont want them to see anything, say, your mother wouldnt be proud of.For starters, youll want to get your LinkedIn ready by writing an awesome summary highlighting your achievements , skills, and interests. Once thats all set, you should plan on staying active and engaged on the platform- that means sharing interesting articles, connecting to people, and finding groups you feel comfortable participating in. You might also want to consider editing or privatizing other social media accounts such as Facebook or Instagram that you prefer to use more casually (again, think about your mom).In addition, you should also consider launching your own personal website, whether its a blog or a portfolio. This is a fun and creative way to showcase your work, your hobbies on the side, or your personality- and a lot of times companies will ask you for these supplements in your application.Step 3 Find Open PositionsSo, where do you look to even find postings? My first go-to is The Muse (Duh). Here, youll be able to search by industry, city, level (its safe to say youll be looking in the entry-level category), or individual companies.In general, when scrolling through job openin gs, youll want to be looking for the saatkorn things you listed earlier in what interested you. For example, if you really want a company with a social mission, take a peek inside the office and listen to what employees say. But be aware of what the posting is looking for in you- if it says a candidate must be proficient in Python and youve never heard of that, maybe its not the right role for you (or, a sign you should take an online course before applying).And, if youre going into a more niche field, try using specific job search websites that cater to that. JUST GETTING STARTED IN YOUR JOB SEARCH?Weve got plenty of entry-level jobs for you to check out today.RIGHT THIS WAY Step 4 NetworkKnow exactly what company you want to work at, but not seeing any openings? Thats a great reason to start networking. Not only will it help you get your personenname (and resume) out there, but its an opportunity to meet someone who knows a lot about the company and can give you some good advice o n how to break into the field- and also maybe some job leads. Even if it doesnt necessarily lead to an offer at that specific organization, youve still made an invaluable connection for down the road.To do this, you should look into job fairs in your area, connect with professionals over LinkedIn, or reach out to old and new connections you may have and see if theyd be willing to go on a coffee date.Its even possible to write an email to someone you havent talked to in a while or a distant connection (such as a friend of a friend of a friend) and ask if they can spare 15 or 20 minutes over the phone just to answer a few of your questions. I know it feels a bit awkward, but if asked politely and enthusiastically, theres a pretty good chance someone would be thrilled to help you out.Step 5 Create Your ResumeOK, so you found a job you want to apply to- great Now is the time to put together your application. Before you create your master resume, youll want to collect all the important i nformation in one place your previous positions, your skills, relevant experiences (Read Winning school pie eating contest does not count), your achievements, and any accomplishments. Once youve compiled all this, its time to lay it out professionally. Now, the way youll want to organize your resume depends on where youre applying, as well as what kind of and how much experience you have. But the standard format is experience, skills, and then qualifications. (Note No objective statement) Want to make it look really nice? Use any of these free templates. Oh, and for help figuring out what to put on there when you have little to no experience, check this out. Now, you mightve noticed master resume above. Thats because youre going to tailor this document for each position you apply to- but having everything in one place will make that as easy as possible. Long story short Tailoring means making sure your resume looks perfect for the position you want, and its usually as easy as making a few tweaks. (Need more info on how to go about this? Click here.)Edit Your ResumeBefore submitting your tailored resume, youre going to want to do the following to make sure its in tip-top shapeCut it down to one page by removing any clutter, a.k.a. , anything thats irrelevant or out of place thats making it too long Make sure it has ATS-friendly keywords so itll actually be read by a humanProofread for grammar and punctuation mistakes And then ask a parent or friend take a look at it, tooStep 6 Write Your Cover LetterYour cover letter is your chance to elaborate on the experience listed in your resume while also proving you understand the company culture. So, depending on where youre applying, you might want to talk about different things. (Hint Use the job description to know which skills to focus on and where to start the conversation.) And yes, I know this is easier said than done, so Id suggest checking out thiscover letter template and this one to make your life easier. (Or , if you want to make your life easiest, consider investing in a coach who will help you through this whole resume and cover letter process.)Edit Your Cover LetterThe biggest mistakes entry-level candidates make are that their cover letters are too long and too full of nothing. While its important to be professional, its also important to let your voice and experience shine through. So, when editing, be sure to look out for filler lines that make you sound like a corporate robot, such as I am uniquely qualified or It would be an honor to work for company. Instead, explain how youre qualified and why youd be honored to be a part of the team. And of course, proofread (Seriously, that could be all it takes for someone to throw it in the trash.)Now click submit. There you go, youve applied for your first job Or, more likely, you read this article and wondered how you could possibly do this over and over again just to land one position. Yes, it is time consuming- but with practice it get s easier and more natural. And I know, if youre still in classes, theres no doubt you wont have full days to focus on this task. However, allotting yourself designated slots throughout the week is a great way to get going- and ensure youre completing apps in a timely manner. According to Muse writer Leslie Moser, youll want to spend around 10 to 20 hours per week perusing open positions, scheduling appointments with your campus career services (if available), attending informational interviews, updating resumes, and writing cover letters.The last thing Ill say is that even if you dont land the job you want on the first few tries, it doesnt mean your efforts are worthless. Be patient and try to learn from each experience- and when you finally receive that dream position (which you will, obviously), let me know on Twitter

Bring it On Class of 2013!

Bring it On Class of 2013 Bring it On Class of 2013 Lean In To Your CareerSheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, gave an inspiring graduation speech at Barnard College in 2011 that lives on in the blogosphere and has evolved into her best-selling book of the same name. She told the young graduates to be ambitious and self-confident, and to lila drink in to their careers, especially since control was theirs for the taking. The world will present many choices during your professional lifetime and career paths can be circuitous and inevitably, they will change. But if you lay back and let things happen by default, you lose the power of choice you so richly deserve.According to Sheryl Put your foot on that gas pedal and keep it there until the day you have to make a decision, and then make a decision that honors you.Be excellent at what you do and lean into your career with self-confidence and the power to control your professional destiny.Make Time for DreamsGive yourself permission to dre am. Its healthy and exhilarating to think big and be ambitious about what you really want personally and professionally. Leadership belongs to those who take it and career management is leadership behavior. Leadership has elendhing to do with rank. Even if you are an entry-level employee, you must take your career future into your own hands.Its easy to get caught up in the day-to-day minutiae and forget to honor your dreams. Work/life integration is tough and balance is next to impossible, but dreaming will empower you to rejuvenate and focus on what you really want. Dreams are necessary to develop your goals and they tap your creativity to consider the possibilities.Only you can define what success and happiness means to you, dreaming gives you permission to design your life and career destiny. Dreaming begs the question what would you do if you werent afraid? Fortune begs the bold dont let your fears overwhelm your desire and give yourself time to dream big so you can begin to m ake it your reality.Expand Your Comfort ZonePut yourself out there because you will never know what you are capable of unless you try. Aim high and dont think about stepping out of your comfort zone as a painful process. Consider expanding your comfort zone as a way to sharpen your strengths and discover new passions.Naomi C. Earp, former Commissioner of the EEOC said Society moves forward because people venture something new, not because they play it safe. Push through your fear and seize new opportunities. Youve got to identify how you want to bring it career wise.Create Your Own Tipping PointBy bringing it, setting goals, and dreaming big you not only honor yourself but you can create the momentum you need for your personal tipping point. All of these things add up and will help you prioritize what you want and deserve in your professional life.Take comfort in knowing that you can be in control of your professional dreams and your career future. You can change your mind, change d irection, and reinvent as often as you wish. But bringing it is your way of embracing your dreams, walking tall, and owning your self-confidence. Consider the legacy you want to leave in the world. Are you bringing it?The Class of 2013 is the succession plan for the future. The challenge is yours as well as the responsibility. Create relationships with influencers and connectors and be ready to talk about what makes you unique. Someday soon youll be tapped to help future graduating classes find their way in the career world and this will be your chance to pay-it-forward.Celebrate the success you have earned- I am cheering you on all the way. Now the tougher journey has begun, but I have confidence that you will succeed if you assume the responsibility and take the power you have and use it wisely.